Character

Barbara Metcalf describes her stay as a guest at Dar ul Uloom Deoband

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Barbara Metcalf is a famous historian specializing in the history of South Asia, particularly the colonial era. Along with her scholarly accomplishments, she has served as the president of the oldest and largest society of historians in the United States, the American Historical Association. When I was an undergraduate history student, her textbook A Concise History of India was required reading …

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How to Take Criticism Like a Man

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How to Take Criticism In our 21st century Western culture, children are raised to believe that safeguarding their own feelings is the highest aim of life. Many elementary schools have dispensed with grades because low grades make student feel sad. This culture gives rise to men who have simply never learned how to take criticism properly. Taking criticism is tough. …

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Islamic Etiquette of being a Guest

A few months ago, we had an article on how to be a good host. There’s also the flipside to that, however. How can you be a good guest? While Islamically, there is a strong emphasis on being a good host, that doesn’t mean that we have no guidelines for being a good guest. A lot of this will vary …

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A Muslim Man is Punctual

A very shameful trait that has become common in Muslim communities is tardiness. People joke about the concept of “Muslim Standard Time”. Despite how ubiquitous this habit is, it’s a habit that any Muslim man wanting to emulate the Prophet ﷺ should remove from his life. The Prophet  ﷺ said “Verily Allah has prescribed ihsan (perfection) in all things.” (Muslim). Part of having ihsan …

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Saying salaam to Muslim women

One of the things Muslim women complain about is that they see many Muslim men ignore them in person and don’t extend the courtesy of salaam. Unfortunately, sometimes this results in the inaccurate perception that non-Muslim men are more respectful towards women than Muslim men. The example of the Prophet ﷺ on the issue is very important. There is a …

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Muslim Man’s Guide to Tipping

Tipping can get very confusing. How much do you give to what person? It’s definitely a jumble. Whether tipping is an archaic custom that should be abolished is a discussion for another time. As it stands right now though, there are places where tipping is considered standard etiquette and not tipping (or tipping too little) reflects poorly on your character. …

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How to Host a Guest

If there’s one thing that Muslims are known for around the world, it’s our hospitality. While other aspects of our respective cultures may have begun to wither away, Muslims continue to proudly uphold the legacy of hospitality that’s been passed down to us through the ages. True hospitality is more than just providing a guest with a bed for the night. As …

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Lessons for Muslim Men in the example of the bee

A few months ago, I delivered a commencement address at a high school graduation ceremony for Muslim students. I spoke about how the key to success in college—as in life—is to be like the honeybee. Since then, I’ve been able to reflect more on the example of bees and the lessons we can derive from them. Over the next few …

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The Muslim Man’s Guide to Interacting with Women

One of the things I’ve noticed growing up in America is that despite the number of talks we have on proper interactions between men and women, there’s a distinct lack of practical advice on the topic. We’re told to strike a balance between being too free and completely walling ourselves off the opposite gender. But that’s not really practical advice …

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Lessons for Muslim Men in the life of Abdul Rahman ibn Awf

When it comes to examples of manliness from the lives of the sahabah, Abdul Rahman ibn Awf stands out from the crowd. He converted to Islam at its very dawn; at one point, he constituted one of eight Muslim men in the entire world. He endured the trials and tribulation of Makkah, losing everything and migrating twice, once to Abyssinia …

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